If you suspect your partner is cheating, hiring a private investigator to get to the truth is by far the best method. This method allows a hands-off involvement and keeping your significant other from finding out is much easier than if you were conducting your own spy mission with hidden cameras or GPS devices. With that being said, you do need to be careful about which private investigator you hire to get the job done.
When choosing a private investigator you should devote enough time to do a thorough and complete check into their background, experience and credentials. Treat it like a job interview. You are interviewing possible candidates to handle your case. Interview them as intensely as if you were hiring them to watch over your children. He should be more than willing to answer all your questions, no matter how trivia they may seem to him. If he appears impatient or doesn’t respond to your questions, then he should not be considered for the job. Do a thorough search. Make sure you can easily communicate with the private investigator that you choose.
Following is a few questions to get you started but add whatever questions you feel you need answered. If he seems annoyed: Let Him Go!
Some Questions for the Interview
1. How long have you worked as a Private Investigator?
2. Where any of your cases similar to mine?
3. Will you be the lead investigator for my case or someone else on staff?
4. Can I see verification that you are licensed in the state?
5. I will also need verification that you are bonded and a copy of your insurance.
6. What procedures are in place for privacy & confidentiality?
7. How much will this cost me?
8. Can you provide me with a written estimate?
9. Can you provide me with a list of references?
10. Will the documentation you provide be acceptable in a court of law?
Private Investigator Necessities
o Licensing: If your state requires licensing, then make sure your private investigator is licensed. Do not rely on a posted license, as this can be fraudulent. Licenses can be purchased. Always check directly with the state board or regulatory commission.
o Better Business Bureau: Check with the Better Business Bureau to be sure no complaints from previous clients have been filed.
o Insured & Bonded: Try to limit your choice of a private investigator to one who’s both insured and bonded. Insurance protects you in case the private investigator is injured or damages property while working on your case.
o Trade Associations: If the private investigator belongs to a trade association that is a plus. It means he is keeping abreast of changes and updates in his profession and more likely to stay within the law.
o Get It In Writing: Of course you need a contract. Details concerning your case and the costs involved should be in writing and not left up to interpretation.
o Skills & Experience: Your private investigator should be skilled in using advanced covert surveillance cameras, installing GPS tracking devices and understanding and managing threat and risk environments.
o Communication & Comfort: When talking with your private investigator, communication should come easily. Not only should he answer your questions, he should voluntarily go into detail about everything he proposes to do, how it will be done and how to interpret the written reports you will receive. If he appears too busy to have a normal, unrushed conversation with you, he probably won’t be able to give your case the attention and dedication it deserves. If you are not comfortable during the interview, don’t think it will get better. Take it as a sign that you are not a good match! Let Him Go!
The private investigator should be able to promptly give you an estimate of all cost involved and what the procedure would be if the charges start to exceed the estimated amount. He should always get your approval in advance of charging you additional fees.
Hiring a private investigator should not make you feel guilty. You need to know the details of what is going on with your husband. Guessing will never satisfy you. If he is cheating, definite proof will help you make a decision, and bring you closure.