Affairs destroy the one binding force that ties all relationships together … Trust. When you know your husband has been cheating on you that bond of trust disintegrates but at least the issue is out in the open if you have proof and they have admitted it. If you suspect your husband is unfaithful however and have yet to catch your husband cheating then you suffer a twofold dilemma, the trust is gone and you are left with the anxiety of not knowing for sure and the options seem to be to stay quiet and hope or to confront them without any proof or hire a private investigator … or is there another way?
The option more and more women facing this problem choose is to take action! Living in distrust and anxiety thinking “is my husband cheating” is no way to live and hiring someone can be extremely expensive and can be difficult to do without your husband finding out. Instead being able to conduct your own investigation is something anyone can do and can do better than an investigator because you are their wife!
The first thing to know is that sometimes you may not be able to find a ‘smoking gun’ to prove you have a cheating spouse such as dirty messages, underpants, pictures of them kissing and so forth … instead most evidence is gathered over time in bits and pieces. Further to this, the digital nature of our lifestyle has influences detective work as well as how men cheat with online dating sites, social websites like Facebook, instant messenger services and of course email.
So the first step you should take is to get digital. Check their cell phone for evidence, SMS messages phone numbers and names that you do not recognize and so forth, also check their computer but do not just look in the obvious places such as emails, search website histories or if you are more tech savvy check their cookies to see what sites they might visit even if they clear out their history and cache. If this is so totally clean it is obvious they are deleting all evidence you may need to go one step further on the digital front by using spy software that remains invisible to your cheating husband and tracks what they do for you to inspect later.